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Facebook Apocalypse 2015

September 16th, 2015 by unkle lancifer · 16 Comments

If any of you fine folks follow the Kindertrauma fan page on Facebook or have friended my Unkle Lancifer profile, you may have noticed that they both recently up and disappeared. What happened was, Facebook had an issue with Unkle Lancifer not being my “real” name and as the Kindertrauma page was set up by that account, it was assassinated too. Both, by the way, were created before such a rule existed. If you rely on Facebook to alert you to new Kindertrauma posts, I’m sorry, that won’t be happening anymore. So far, from what I can see our readership has not taken a major dive since this occurred and it’s pretty obvious Facebook was only showing the updates to a fraction of our followers anyway in some lame attempt to get us to pay for them to “boost” their visibility. Frankly, on more than a few occasions, I wondered if posting flyers on telephone poles would be more effective.

I have tried everything to fix the situation and it’s basically like having brunch with the monolith from 2001: A SPACE ODYSSEY. I’ve sent them I.D., as requested, and explained that “Unkle Lancifer” is a nick name/alias/pen name all to no avail. All I have received in return are automated emails designed to look like they are from a human when clearly they are not (and I’m the phony?) They refuse to even acknowledge my grievance until I present them with ID that says “Unkle Lancifer” and of course, nothing like that exists. Their only excuse for that random Draconian practice is, “We take your online security seriously’’ which is funny coming from the people who badger me for days about items that I happened to glance at on Ebay or Amazon earlier in the week. Robot-cookie-dudes, I looked up that DEATH SPA DVD merely to see if it existed, not because I wanted it (well, maybe I do want it but that’s not the point- nor is it FB’s business).

This steamroller of a policy has already gotten Facebook on many a drag queen’s shit list and it’s not hard to see why (more HERE). There are a myriad of reasons why a person may want to use a name other than the one they were born with and many of them far outweigh, in legitimacy, whatever this spurious policy is allegedly trying to accomplish.

My incentive, I admit, was not fueled by a necessity, as I just wanted to present a horror host type persona a’la DR. SHOCK or ELVIRA. There was absolutely nothing conniving or deceitful about that action so it’s weird that Facebook provides more wiggle room for hate groups than it does a nostalgic movie site designed to provide entertainment (for free I might add). Even if Facebook does come to provide an actual solution (rather than an empty apology) to the drag community, there’s no way to be certain that it will revive my Facebook account (which is ironic considering I’ve often been mistaken for “Richie” JANE MARCH’s male persona in COLOR OF NIGHT (1994). Ooops…spoiler alert).

Furthermore, I don’t know how many hoops I even want to jump through for this Facebook thing. In a rare instance of my taste not coinciding with that of the average shut-in, I’ve never been much of a fan. Some think of it as a necessary evil but I’ve come to call it by its real name “The Ego Pit of Flaming Insecurities.” On the plus side, it does showcase some of the most adorable animals in the world but on the minus side, nothing has been responsible for lessening my view of humanity more. I mean it’s basically VIDEODROME. Right? How is it not exactly, precisely and literally (give it a rest, word police) VIDEODROME?

Maybe that’s a little harsh. I know some people who get a lot of positive use from it. It’s just never been a comfortable fit for me. I guess I’ve always had some weird instinctive aversion to hive chatter and anything that operates like a mind control parasite invasion from outer space.

I don’t know. Does Kindertrauma even need Facebook? We existed before without it and I feel like those were the salad days. I know theoretically you are supposed to desire the largest following possible but I’m more than fine with the clubhouse vibe going on here. The few times a post of ours has been picked up by a larger horror site on Facebook and I have gotten to see the types of comments a more popular joint attracts all I can think is, “Thank God I don’t have to digest that type of nonsense regularly.”

Anyway, I’m leaving it up to you readers. If you enjoy the convenience of being alerted to our updates via Facebook, I’ll just open a new account under my “real” name and we can have it there for that purpose alone. Sure, it’ll sting to start over at zero friends but I can’t pretend I’ve never experienced that wonderful sensation before. Let me know. I can go either way. I quit smoking 7 months ago (!) after 25 plus years and if I can quit that, I can drop Facebook quicker than a Christmas tree in January.

Plus the idea of never having to rate the worth of our output again by how many folks deign to “like” it in the Thunderdome kind of thrills me. Not that discovering that Facebook had left my cake out in the rain didn’t hurt, it did. We lost a ton. There was a lot of original content (that I’m praying we backed up) and all of the great comments we got from our readers over the years are now gone (Not to play favorites, but I took a screenshot of Nancy Allen’s comment, so that’s safe).

What kills me the most though is that in the early days we posted so many pictures of the stray kittens we adopted (as duplicitous fiends do) and although we’re sure to have saved them elsewhere, I’ll miss having them in the timeline order they occurred. I even went through all the five stages of grief: DENIAL (it’s a mistake); ANGER (cue MADELINE KAHN flaming head CLUE (1985) gif!); BARGAINING (You can throw out the account that I use to connect with my family if I can have KT’s back!); DEPRESSION (I own every album by THE CURE and I’m not afraid to use them); and finally ACCEPTANCE (We’ll live and hey, don’t they let you post pictures on Twitter these days?).

I’ll keep you guys posted and in the meantime here is our TWITTER that you can follow for updates. I realize that’s probably just another head sprouting from the same dragon but at least when it breathes fire on you, it does it in 140 puffs or less and doesn’t try to charge you for the privilege.

Most importantly we’re HERE, as in here at This is our home and these are our pink walls and around these parts my name is Unkle Lancifer and my husband goes by Aunt John. If that’s a problem you know where the door is (it’s that pointy “back” button at the top left corner). Everybody else; “nuestra casa es su casa.” If you want to talk scary movies or creepy stuff on TV or anything that freaked you out as a kid and made you the horror fan you are today– we’ve got you covered. I guarantee you’ll see stuff here you won’t see anywhere else. We’ll keep coming back as long as you guys keep coming back and maybe, probably, even longer. Honestly I’ve always pegged Facebook being to blogs as the freeway was to the Bates Motel, so don’t be surprised if this place only gets more interesting.

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16 responses so far ↓

  • 1 writergrrrrlNo Gravatar // Sep 16, 2015 at 3:13 pm

    I am 100% with you, Lance! I loathe Facebook and its hypocrisy. I have friends that are constantly after me as to why I don’t have an account. I had one, but I deleted it when I realized it was nothing more than a time-killer. And for that Pinterest is far more fun any day. I have been following you for quite some time, via your website and later on Twitter. I never even noticed you had a Facebook page! Please don’t waste your time, creative energy, or sense of humor on a shitty faceless conglomerate. Facebook is like the high school of the internet. And creative, unique people like you have no reason to seek the approval of others! Let them keep their thumbs up – and give them the finger. Those of us who think you kick ass will continue to do so without Facebook’s approval.

  • 2 chainmanNo Gravatar // Sep 16, 2015 at 3:46 pm

    Just spitballing. Maybe write a faux book, entitled My Name is Unkle Lancifer I Dislike Facebook. 12 chapters, each chapter a paragraph or less. Have it set up as a self published digital book on Amazon to make the book authentic. Make it dirt cheap or free. Amazon would want your real name, etc, that’s a downside.
    Then your nom de plume would match your nickname. No freaking idea if that would work.
    Maybe claim you are afraid of stalkers because of possible homophobic hate crimes.
    I hope your get your name/acct back. It is yours and they shouldn’t of torched it. I’m rooting for you. Good Luck, got my fingers crossed for you!

  • 3 JennyD13No Gravatar // Sep 16, 2015 at 7:00 pm

    That is such crap! On the up side, I (and I’m betting most of your core fans) have managed to stumble across this wonderful horror based sanctuary without facebook. Kindertrama is on my bookmarks toolbar right next to my email and is one of the few sites I get really excited over seeing new content! I really hope you can get all your content back, though. Losing all of that sounds heartbreaking.

  • 4 unkle lanciferNo Gravatar // Sep 16, 2015 at 7:40 pm


    Thanks for backing me up and for the very kind words! I’m so with you on FB being the high school of the internet. Maybe I’m just too old for that stuff.

    I still have my “real” name account but after this week I’m thinking maybe I’ll just disable that too.

    I’ve stayed away from it for the last week and All I feel is relieved like I escaped some horrible party or jury duty. It’s like waking up from a trance or something.

    Aunt John has been off it for years and he tried to tell me but I guess I just had to learn myself!


    Thanks for the support!

    Honestly my intuition/paranoia is already telling me that we got flagged by a hater.

    It’s very strange that we got taken down the day after we posted that Kim Davis’s head being demolished by a basketball DEADLY FRIEND gif.

    What can I say I thought that thing was hilarious. I still watch it to amuse myself.

    There are a lot of nut jobs out there.

    We are very lucky and get great commenters here on the site but anyone can “like” a fan page on FB and I would see the most backwards crap on that feed.

    I’m not going to miss that.


    Aw, that’s so cool to hear. I love that you bookmarked us! Thanks you so much.

    Yeah loosing the content smarts but John is pretty good about backing stuff up so hopefully it’s not too much.

    Also I always had in the back of my mind that FB could turn into a ghost town like My Space overnight so I think I was pretty careful.

    The kitten pictures being lost put me in a panic at first but it looks like we still have a zillion so that should be enough!

  • 5 M KitkaNo Gravatar // Sep 16, 2015 at 11:14 pm

    Yeah, FB can go to hell, and not the cool one with the sweet monsters. I’ve got you bookmarked, too and it’s nice to have everything in one place on this site. I always name Kindertrauma as the *only* website that I can trust to always have a great, respectful comments section where there’s nothing to fear but the horror. There is literally (I mean it!) not another site on the interwebs that I can say that about. Keep up the great work, you and Aunt John!!

  • 6 popcornmonsterNo Gravatar // Sep 17, 2015 at 10:04 am

    I feel the same way about Facebook and have been less active there lately. It really does feel like high school and I noticed that myself recently. It’s an online popularity contest and it’s starting to irk me as well. Even my business posts get ignored there. I’ll keep stopping by this site every day or so to check for updates.

  • 7 thenewbigwigNo Gravatar // Sep 17, 2015 at 10:33 am

    Unless you are somehow generating (substantial) revenue from the FB account, in that is worth the risk/reward of having it, I strongly encourage you to drop it likes it’s hot. Having worked in IT security throughout its inception, FB IMO should only be an option for those who don’t have the savvy to travel another hosted route. Between exploits, data mining, and a whole host evils that make you vulnerable to non-like-minded souls. I agree that most who have found their way into your cheery domain have done so through a search for a particular trauma, and have become pleasantly hooked. I would anticipate in the 10 or so years you’ve been around, through constant through-provoking, convivial and interesting original content, you’ve persevered to have the volume fan-base of dedicants that most FB accounts dream of.
    I echo the sentiment of another reader that the true compulsion to read on day after day on the site is that those who tend to comment and share are as erudite and polite as the content itself, which, in my experience is the polar opposite of most full-blown social media outlets.
    Just my long-winded two cents.

  • 8 dvyoung444No Gravatar // Sep 18, 2015 at 12:04 pm

    Nothing but joy visiting this site and never knew or cared if you were on Facebook. To steal a quote from Henry Chinaski, I don’t hate Facebook, but I feel better when it’s not around.

  • 9 unkle lanciferNo Gravatar // Sep 18, 2015 at 2:37 pm

    M Kitka,

    Thanks for that bookmark and thanks for being one of our wonderful commenters!


    Thanks for always stopping by here and yeah, I think one stint in H.S was more than enough for me.


    I was thinking the same thing. Making zero revenue does allow us a certain amount of freedom and I’ve noticed that even when people “like” something on FB they often do it w/o visiting the site. A lot of times they’ll just “like” a title of a movie w/o reading anything more.


    I’m so glad you enjoy yourself here and you hit the nail on the head with your Chinaski quote! That makes my day.

    Now here is the latest and I don’t know exactly how to feel about it yet…

    After sending dozens of emails to FB and sending my ID (with everything but name and birthday blacked out) I got a response saying if I wanted to change the name to Vaughan Lancifer I could…

    So I said yes and for now I have access to the account and the fan page back…

    I have been busy grabbing all the important junk off of there in case it gets locked up again.

    And I guess I’m going to leave the fan page up there and just stay the hell away from it myself.

    I thought about deleting it but there is so much there that I can’t replace like the comments from readers.

    I feel bad because I know there are a ton of people who still have not gotten their FB profiles back but I guess the name on my ID was close enough.

    In any case I’ve learned my lesson: FB has clay feet and I’m going to keep it at arms length.

    Their policy still stinks and is closed minded and can easily be abused.

    As usual stuff like this shows you who your real friends are.

    I can’t tell you how much better you all made me feel about the situation…

    Thanks again to all of you guys for having my back and for your supportive comments.

    They meant more to me than you know.

  • 10 micksterNo Gravatar // Sep 18, 2015 at 10:19 pm

    As long as my Kindertrauma is here along with my wonderful KinderPals, Unkle Lancifer and Aunt John, FB can go to the Devil! I loved KT and company long before I joined FB. Pfft! To them!

  • 11 unkle lanciferNo Gravatar // Sep 19, 2015 at 9:29 pm

    Yay Mickster!

  • 12 Ben SNo Gravatar // Sep 20, 2015 at 1:23 pm

    I come to KinderTrauma every day, Facebook or not. Fuck them! Your description of the relief of quitting is inspiring. I am so addicted to it…and WHY?!

  • 13 unkle lanciferNo Gravatar // Sep 20, 2015 at 7:07 pm

    Thanks for always stopping by Ben S!

    I tell ya, I had no idea it had invaded my brain so much, I always thought of myself as a casual user but as soon as something is taken away from you, you realize how casual you are not.

    I even caught myself thinking that I was going to share THIS POST on my personal page and then I realize that was the problem and not the solution.

    Plus FB was starting to do that “This is what was on your mind 5 years ago” thing and that’s no way to make points with me.

    Ugh, and the tortured animal pictures posted by well meaning activists. I appreciate the sentiment but my psyche can’t handle that.

  • 14 gsmileNo Gravatar // Sep 22, 2015 at 4:09 am

    This is one of the best posts I’ve read on this site, and I fully support you ditching Facebook. Long live Kindertrauma!

  • 15 Brian KatcherNo Gravatar // Sep 22, 2015 at 11:55 pm

    The facebook ‘real name’ policy has been pretty nasty to some of my transgender friends, who have had accounts yanked because they’ve changed gender identity since they opened their account and FB only recognizes their real (obsolete) name.

  • 16 Rev. AustinNo Gravatar // Sep 30, 2015 at 4:41 pm

    This article is an excellent example why I keep coming back to this site – everything you guys write is entertaining and informative, but mostly *intelligent*, and that’s a refreshing change in a world where a lot of sites seem to regurgitate ideas/facts/news/opinions from elsewhere.

    ANYWAY. I’m another who completely agrees with what you’ve said about Facebook, Unkle Lancifer. I can’t fathom why they allow racist/hate groups to continue but are intent on putting their foot down on people using nicknames etc. My wife is on there under a completely weird “name” so she can keep in contact with people she wouldn’t be able to otherwise, but avoid being found by certain family members. I have a few friends in similar situations, too.

    What I like least about all of this, though, is how pervasive Facebook is/has become. Like it’s hold on our daily lives has arrived with the kind of insidious pace that would likely give Lovecraft the willies.

    ANYWAY x 2 – Kindertrauma is ace! Keep being YOU, because it’s a lovely thing.

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